Princess Mia by Meg Cabot
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I've read most of the Princess Diaries books, but I never really sat down to write a review for any until now. I've enjoyed them all, because I relate to Mia (what female never spent time as a teenager convinced the world was going to end because of something insignificant?). In fact, I almost *was* Mia. I spent most of my life in my friend group as the one who would just go along with what everyone else wanted to do. I didn't argue, I didn't fight, I didn't stand up for myself.
I saw myself in Mia, constantly going along with things she didn't want to do, because I did the same. It was so bad that, when I tried to figure out what things I liked a few years ago, I couldn't put anything down on the list. So I identified with Mia through the earlier books. But this one. This one really struck home.
After I got married, my husband forced me to make decisions, like where to eat. I was terrible at those decisions, still am, because I was so used to those choices not even existing for me. If my friends wanted to eat this, then that's what we ate. If they wanted to do that, then that's what we did. But suddenly I had choices, and a husband who would let me choose what I wanted to do, without freaking out, trying to force me to choose something else, or making me feel guilty for picking something he didn't want.
And that's when I started losing my friends.
One after another, as I asserted myself in my friendships, I lost them. I didn't want to be treated like that anymore. I knew what I wanted, now, and I wouldn't sit back and let them make all the decisions for me anymore. I started to tell them when I thought they were wrong. But they wouldn't respect that I had opinions too. That I wanted things different from them sometimes, and expected them to occasionally humor me, or bend their wants enough to compromise. And so they got angry. I refused to back down, and got the silent treatment, among other things. As I continued to refuse to back down, they went, accusing me of being unreasonable, even of being mentally ill, as they left me.
The moment when Mia had the chance to beg Lilly to forgive her and be her friend again was cathartic to read. She hadn't done anything wrong - she didn't need to ask for forgiveness. And so she didn't. Instead, she went home, and, in the interest of starting over fresh, rearranged her room. She realized that Lilly wasn't as good of a friend as she had always thought.
I'd come to the same conclusion. If my friends can't accept that I'm different from them, if they won't treat me nicely unless I'm behaving the way they want, then they're not very good friends. And it's time to let them go.
I'd been struggling over my decision to do just that when I got this book in the mail. Some of us had been friends for decades, and I was going to write them off. Was that really the right choice? Shouldn't I fight harder for them?
But Mia hadn't done anything wrong. Expecting Lilly to come and talk to her about whatever problems she had with her wasn't unrealistic. Expecting Lilly to believe *her* over magazines and articles about her and expecting her to be there and try to understand her feelings was perfectly reasonable.
Expecting my friends to compromise so that I get my way every once in a while isn't unrealistic, either. And neither is expecting them to continue to treat me nicely when I ask them to. Why apologize for that, and then back down and stop asking it of them? If they're not capable, for whatever reason, of being good friends for you, then why continue? When you and your friends change, and neither of you can tolerate those changes, it's time to leave, no matter the history.
It was validating to read, and an incredibly valuable lesson worth learning (even if, now that I've read the next few books, I know that Lilly wasn't nearly as unreasonable as she seemed).
I've enjoyed all the Princess Diaries books on one level or another, but this one is by far my favorite. Mia has always been entertaining in her overly-dramatic way, and I've always identified with her emotional sensitivity, since I've struggled with that too. But watching her make the same decision I had elevated this book above the others for me. It gave me a little more confidence, that, despite how much I miss those friends and wish it had gone differently, I still made the right choice. Those particular challenges are not limited to teenagers.
Anyone who, after the last book, isn't sure they want to continue, well...I'd urge them to read this book before they decide for certain they don't want to read any further.
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“No, no,” Uriah said. Saul's thin, graceful body spasmed, and a green froth formed on his lips as Uriah gently lowered him to the ground.
“Her spell hit me,” Saul said.
“I can see that,” Uriah said, settling his friend on the leaf litter. “She meant it for me. Tell me what to do.”
“There isn't anything you can do,” Saul replied.
“There has to be something,” Uriah argued, shaking his head. The thought of Saul, his mentor, his foster father, dying was bad enough, but the thought that Uriah himself had caused it – there had to be something. Anything.
“Anthony,” Saul called. “Is the child safe?”
Anthony scooped up the baby in his long arms, and cradled her to his chest. “Yes,” he said.
“Then I did what I set out to do,” Saul said with a smile.
“Forget about the baby for one second,” Uriah said “and tell me what to do to help.”
“It's poison, Uriah. You know, maybe better than anyone, we don't have a cure for it. And that baby is the entire reason we came tonight. You know that.”
“Just leave me here,” Saul said.
She hurried along the castle corridors, torchlight flickering at irregular intervals along the rough stone walls. Her flame hair streamed out behind her and a handful of skirt was gripped tightly in one hand so she would not trip over the long hem. The corridors were empty, the windows looking out into blackness - a velvet so dark not even the flicker of stars could be seen. She spared not a glance for this; she had not seen the sun, stars, or moon once in her short life, and their absence did not strike her as unusual or ominous. The silence of the castle, however, could be felt as well as heard. Her feet pounding the flagstones made the only sound, and it echoed down the long halls.
She ran around a corner, and halted at a door concealed in shadow, barely large enough to admit her slight frame. She halted to catch her breath, and when her heartbeat had quieted at last, pushed it open. The stark bare walls of the passage vanished behind her as she stepped into warmth and light.
"Ashrinde! At last! Come quickly, child, I am needed in the council room." Not all of the castle slumbered. The queen had changed herself from her nightgown into a simple dress of deep red, but her hair still lay across her shoulders, tousled from sleep and gleaming in the light of a lamp set upon the wardrobe. Ashrinde curtsied, and crossed the room in a swishing of skirts to do as she was bid. Her mistress may have dressed herself, but her hair still needed to be put in order.
"Why have you been summoned, milady?" Ashrinde asked, beginning her work with the comb and her voice pitched low to disguise her curiosity.
The snowflakes drifted down from the velvet black of the midnight sky, swirling like dust as they dropped gently to the ground. The snow was thick, covering the hilly landscape in a pale, luminous blanket. There was no wind, though the air was chill, and the silence was broken only by the sound of footsteps, crunching.
There was a road hidden beneath the snow, and upon it walked three figures, all swathed in black. The tallest of the three led the way, his broad shoulders and long strides at the point of an arrow formation. To his right and left were two smaller figures, more delicately built than himself.
"How much further?" one of the smaller figures asked, voice breathless from the cold.
"It will be as far as it is," the second small figure replied. "If the cold bothers you so much, Maurelle, you should have stayed behind."
"I am not the one shivering," Maurelle pointed out, her voice easily as cold as the weather. "Perhaps you should have stayed behind."
They both lapsed into a frigid silence, in which they did nothing more than follow their leader, who appeared to take no notice of their squabble, and had his eyes fixed directly ahead. Maurelle turned to look at her companions. Her hair, dark and wildly curly, had been stuffed into a hood, but several rogue curls had popped loose and framed her face. Her nose was sharp, as was her chin; her eyes were a pale brown color, and set beneath thick eyebrows.
The other woman was smaller than Maurelle, more ethereal. Her pale skin seemed almost to shimmer in the faint light of the snow, and her brilliant green eyes glittered at the perceived slight from her female companion. Her own hair was quite as curly as Maurelle's, though it hung in ordered ringlets that shone like gold. She had a rounded face with faintly flushed cheeks, and a flash of green showed at her throat, where the cloak was fastened with a silver clasp. She shifted her shoulders, and breathed out sharply, a plume of smoke in the air. Forestyne would have given almost anything to be out of the snow.
"Could we not have taken a portal to get here?" Forestyne asked. Their leader again appeared not to hear. Forestyne scowled, her pretty face twisting.
"If there were a portal nearby I am sure we would have used it," Maurelle said. "Unless there were a good reason for coming this way." Forestyne glared at Maurelle, her eyes flashing fire, her normally full mouth thinned in anger.
The leader, his dark hair pulled away from his angular face, strode easily across the glittering expanse, his sharp eyes watchful, picking out a fence post here, a man-made cut into the earth there. If they wandered from the road they might be forced to suffer another night in the snow. They would survive. But he had no desire to listen to Maurelle and Forestyne quarrel over inconsequential things, as he knew they were doing now. He had listened to quite enough as it was. Urwin's eyes narrowed as they topped the crest of a hill, and he raised one gloved hand to point.
"Garnel," he said.
The sudden appearance of a vampire outside the town of Dingleswick was cause for much concern. Though the rest of the towns in Dainsbury had been enveloped by darkness, Dingleswick could still see the sun on occasion, though through a red haze. They had never seen any evil creatures of the night there, and the presence of even a newborn vampire nearly caused a panic in the streets.
When Helyas, the blacksmith's son, came running into town, his eyes wide as he gasped for breath, the goodwives on the mainstreet doing their shopping for the week stopped to stare. When he had caught his breath, he shouted "I saw a vampire birth in the mountains!"
The street went still for a moment. "Up north," Helyas said, pointing vaguely toward the towering northern mountains. "A vampire," he repeated, his arm dropping limply to his side. The pedestrians stared for a moment longer, and then went about their business. Perhaps Helyas had visited the tavern before his trip to the mountains, many reasoned; he had obviously had more mead than was good for him. Other towns had challenges with evil creatures birthing in their lonely places, but Dingleswick had never had such a problem. So they went about their business, ignoring what they thought were the mad ravings of a drunk man.